The loss of a child is devastating and indescribable. Rather than trying to forget, one coping solution could be helping parents to remember their children without the trauma.

This was one of the many ideas explored during the workshop run by Sound Waves

Sound Waves: Mothers of children lost to gun and knife crime speak with Assist Trauma Care

The loss of a child is devastating and indescribable. Rather than trying to forget,
one coping solution could be helping parents to remember their children without
the trauma.

This was one of the many ideas explored during the workshop run by Sound Waves – a Big Local Impact project.

Sound Waves is run by mothers who have tragically lost their children to gun and knife crime. The mothers describe this lived experience as ‘trauma of the highest level’. Sound Waves aims to support mothers who sadly come to experience this loss. They began with sharing information on the trauma they experience.

Lisa Wright and Anton Noble from Assist Trauma Care were invited to speak at last month’s workshop. Assist Trauma Care provides support to those dealing with traumatic bereavement.

Anton Noble is a former offender who now commits his time to the youth in Coventry. He takes to the streets in a minivan, aiming to break the cycle of gang violence.

“A lot of youths get kicked out of school, because the teachers, many of them don’t have the time so they just send them out instead of getting to know the kid on a one to one basis.

“This is what I and the team do for the kids. We support the youth that are in that background but can’t speak up for themselves.”

Anton has lost close friends, but the trauma has not stopped him moving forward.

“With loss, I don’t think you get over it, you get stronger.

“And I think the best thing that I’ve learnt with loss is if you can’t get over it you can look over it.

“And when I say you look over it. it’s not just that you carry on with your lives like it’s not there, but you carry on to make it positive.”

Lisa Wright runs Assist Trauma Care support groups for grieving parents. Her years doing so has highlighted how lonely such loss can leave one feeling.

“Human beings try to be very kind and understanding when they know another person has lost somebody.

“But I think when you lose a child, there are people who make very crass comments.

“I’ve had parents say to me ‘somebody came up to me and said I know how you feel I lost my mother last year’.

“And it’s not comparable, it really isn’t.”

But Lisa stressed that support which Sound Waves provides can help the grieving feel less isolating.

“The journey that you are on as grieving parents is huge, it’s not wholly recognised and it can be very lonely.

“What is wonderful is to know that there is this group, there is support and there is a reaching out you can do.”

Sound Waves has workshops for grieving parents planned in the future. Details of which will be published on our website and social media.

Our next meeting will be on 17 December 2020 at 5:30pm.

If you would like to attend or have any questions please contact media@biglocalimpact.org.uk